Interesting People

Hmmm...I'm in the mood to analyse people these days....hope I'm not judging anyone.....

I know of a friend who has been a compulsive liar. I didn't realise until someone highlighted it to me. Since then, I started observing every movement. Well, I am really surprise how can one lie to the extreme to seek sympathy from people. Is there a need to lie? She claimed that she is lonely, somehow a slightest tear cause many hearts to go to her. She has a good life and almost anything she wants. Everyone sees her as an important person and yet she seems not happy. Well, I guess her definition of "happiness" is different. Thank god, I'm able to see all these without getting affected these days.

Another friend called me yesterday. She is disturbed because she badly wanted an upgrade and her employer approved for the internal interview. Unfortunately, just as she was all prepared to go all out for the interview with her new blouse etc, her employer broke the news that they want to offer the job to another colleague. She was very disappointed. Instead she was offered to take a loan for her degree programme for counselling which is not part of her job scope. Well, I told her to look at the positive side....it could be for better off. She seems to be convinced after talking to me 1/2 hour....hopefully she gets what she wants. Why are people so disturbed?

I came across an interesting blogger, he goes around commenting in other blogs and somehow people visits his blog too. However, his blog has only photos and photos but nothing much about him. When I'm free, I read what others comment about his works but somehow I'm not convinced if it's true or they are saying it to please him?? I am always puzzle about man with few words but express his nature through photos. What are they like? According to my lecturer when I did my psychology, these are the creative people who are not able to express their feeling to human, so they do it through painting, photos and pictures. Is it true?

I met another interesting lady....a very unique married woman who does not sleep with her husband and yet serve her husband without fail. She ensures his breakfast is prepared every morning, lunch is served if he is at home. She seems to be very contented. Her husband on the other hand too is fine with the arrangement. He only comes out to eat and he goes back into the room to watch his programme. They only communicate if there is a need. How can she survive? Can a man live like that forever. They are not old. If this happens to me, I probably divorce my husband or kill myself hahaha....

Finally, a new little gal student in the Balagurukulam class last Sun. She is so gentle, quiet and has such pleasant face. When I was teaching mantras and singing bhajans, she just tapped my lap and smiled at me. My heart just melt....she has a unique eyes.

So much of analysing people..maybe my mind is too free today or maybe I'm troubled today so I'm expressing myself through others..hahahaha....

Death

One of my aunt passed away last Sunday. She has been suffering from cancer and doctor gave up on her eventually. She was counting her days and finally she departed. It was my first time getting involve in a showering and dressing the preta (body). Everybody was involved right from showering, dressing and I could see the teamwork. It was indeed a smooth transition where everybody prayed for her atma (soul).

It was my first experience going to the new crematorium too. I was amazed to see the high tech instrument used for the funeral. Everything was automatic. After some rituals done at parlour, the coffin moves automatically on the track and the door automatically opens to the next section. People were requested to move to the viewing gallery. You can then watch the coffin moving on the track and it moves to a forklift. When the forklift moves to next section, the spot-light in on. There you can see the coffin travelling through into the oven and you are watching it from a higher level.

It was a glimpse moment of myself. Yes, I just felt like I am in the place, the process is a glimpse of an individual destination one day. It was a reflection. What am I doing here? What is the purpose and my thoughts just went on. Why do people cry when we are immortal? Why do we cling to the body, the name when we know the atma(soul) is indeed immortal. What happens if my love ones die before me....
Will I blame God? Will I say it as "God's Plan"? or will I accept it as the person's karma?

I can only conclude that Death is inevitable. Every birth has it's death. If we can live one more day to see the world, do right action, have pure thoughts and speak the truth. One more thing...think of death at least once daily because that will make ones mind prepared

This morning...my day started with this saying ....

Only with the birth of the body do our worldly relations start and end with its death. But in each birth our relation with the Lord remains unchanged. Our present experience seems to be right the opposite and we are trying to make ever-lasting relations in the never-lasting world and thereby casting a spell of sorrows for ourselves. Understand and realise that our relation with the Lord is primary and permanent and all others are secondary and impermanent. Each individual has a primary relation with the Lord, whether he knows and accepts it or not. Ignorance of this is the cause of our suffering. - Swami Tejomayananda

Vesshnu and Vitesh

Two cutie pies

Vitesh finally got a place in Sarada Kindergarten. The teachers were happy to see Vesshnu. Alice who was his music teacher is a the Vice Principal and Pushpa is the Principal. I'm very happy to see the both of them taking on the new roles. I could see Vesshnu too is excited to see his little brother going to "his" school.

Yesterday, something strange happened. Vesshnu said he is beginning to dislike his brother because of the maid. I was kind of puzzle. So, I asked him over and again what was really bothering him. Finally he broke. It seems, my maid doesn't allow Vesshnu to do anything for Vitesh. Guess, my maid wants to do things herself for her convenience. When children take up responsibility, it can turn messy. So, when he is angry or upset with the maid, he shows to his little brother.

I asked him, what will it be like if I showed the same tantrum to him when I'm angry or upset with people around me. So, finally he agreed that he will change provided he can have more responsibilities to take care his brother. We wants to feed, make milk and do other things for his cutie pie.

I told the maid to allow him to do whatever he likes but if he messes up, let me know instead of telling him off.

It's a reflection....when we grow up our mom, we help her take care our siblings in some way. Yet, as we grow up, the sibling have difference and sometimes they draw apart or even break their ties.

Nowadays children grow up with maids more than parents. As a parent, I'm try my best to give undivided attention when I'm at home. I wonder whether there will be love and understanding between siblings when they are adult. What is going to happen to future?

I'm glad that Vesshnu has a matured mind to identify his faults and able to voice out to me. I'm proud of him...