Thursday, January 17, 2008

5 Lessons to make you think about the way we treat people.

1- First Important Lesson - Cleaning Lady

During my second month of college, our professor
gave us a pop quiz. I was a conscientious student
and had breezed through the questions until I read
the last one:
'What is the first name of the woman who cleans the school?'
Surely this was some kind of joke.. I had seen the
cleaning woman several times. She was tall,
dark-haired and in her 50s, but how would I know her name?
I handed in my paper, leaving the last question
blank. Just before class ended, one student asked if
the last question would count toward our quiz grade.
'Absolutely,' said the professor. 'In your careers,
you will meet many people. All are significant. They
deserve your attention and care, even if all you do
is smile and say 'hello.'
I've never forgotten that lesson. I also learned her
name was Dorothy.


2. - Second Important Lesson - Pickup in the Rain

One night, at 11:30 p.m., an elderly African-American woman was standing on the side of an Alabama highway trying to endure a lashing rainstorm. Her car had broken down and she desperately needed a ride. Soaking wet, she decided to flag down the next car. A young white man stopped to help her, generally unheard of in those conflict-filled 60s.. The man took her to safety, helped her get assistance and put her into a taxicab.
She seemed to be in a big hurry, but wrote down his address and thanked him. Seven days went by and a knock came on the man's door. To his surprise, a
giant console color TV was delivered to his home. A special note was attached..
It read:
'Thank you so much for assisting me on the highway the other night. The rain drenched not only my clothes, but also my spirits. Then you came along. Because of you, I was able to make it to my dying husband's bedside just before he passed away... God bless you for helping me and unselfishly serving others.'
Sincerely, Mrs. Nat King Cole.

3. -Third Important Lesson - Always remember those who serve

In the days when an ice cream sundae cost much less, a 10-year-old boy entered a hotel coffee shop and sat at a table. A waitress put a glass of water in front of him.
'How much is an ice cream sundae?' he asked.
'Fifty cents,' replied the waitress.
The little boy pulled his hand out of his pocket and
studied the coins in it.
'Well, how much is a plain dish of ice cream?' he inquired.
By now more people were waiting for a table and the waitress was growing impatient.
'Thirty-five cents,' she brusquely replied.

The little boy again counted his coins.
'I'll have the plain ice cream,' he said.
The waitress brought the ice cream, put the bill on
the table and walked away. The boy finished the ice
cream, paid the cashier and left. When the waitress
came back, she began to cry as she wiped down the
table. There, placed neatly beside the empty dish,
were two nickels and five pennies..
You see, he couldn't have the sundae, because he had to have enough left to leave her a tip.

4 - Fourth Important Lesson. - The obstacle in Our Path.

In ancient times, a King had a boulder placed on a
roadway. Then he hid himself and watched to see if
anyone would remove the huge rock. Some of the
king's wealthiest merchants and courtiers came by
and simply walked around it. Many loudly blamed the King for not keeping the roads clear, but none did anything about getting the stone out of the way.

Then a peasant came along carrying a load of
vegetables. Upon approaching the boulder, the
peasant laid down his burden and tried to move the
stone to the side of the road. After much pushing
and straining, he finally succeeded. After the
peasant picked up his load of vegetables, he noticed
a purse lying in the road where the boulder had
been. The purse contained many gold coins and a note from the King indicating that the gold was for the person who removed the boulder from the roadway. The peasant learned what many of us never understand!

Every obstacle presents an opportunity to improve our condition.


5 - Fifth Important Lesson - Giving When it Counts...


Many years ago, when I worked as a volunteer at a
hospital, I got to know a little girl named Liz who
was suffering from a rare & serious disease. Her only chance of recovery appeared to be a blood
transfusion from her 5-year old brother, who had
miraculously survived the same disease and had
developed the antibodies needed to combat the
illness. The doctor explained the situation to her
little brother, and asked the little boy if he would
be willing to give his blood to his sister.

I saw him hesitate for only a moment before taking a deep breath and saying, 'Yes I'll do it if it will save her.' As the transfusion progressed, he lay in bed next to his sister and smiled, as we all did, seeing the color returning to her cheek. Then his face grew pale and his smile faded.

He looked up at the doctor and asked with a
trembling voice, 'Will I start to die right away'.

Being young, the little boy had misunderstood the

doctor; he thought he was going to have to give his
sister all of his blood in order to save her.



Have a great weekend!

Wednesday, January 9, 2008

Happy Pongal


Happy New Year!!

I wanted to update my blog some time ago. Hmmm...wonder what stopped me.


1) Lazy
2) Kind of bored
3) Helped in my cousins 21st birthday celebration

4) Too busy doing my school assignment

5) Went holiday

6) Too much work when I came back to work

These are all excuses.....plainly I'm lazy and tired these days :-)


Anyway Pongal is round the corner (15 Jan) for those who don't know. Let me be the first one to wish all my friends a very happy pongal.

Meaning of Pongal
Pongal is a harvest festival - the Tamil equivalent of Thanksgiving. It is held to honor the Sun, for a bountiful harvest. Families gather to rejoice and share their joy and their harvests with others. The Sun is offered a "Pongal" of rice and milk. Literally meaning "Boiling over", Pongal, signifies the advent of prosperity. Pongal is normally celebrated over a period of four days, starting on the 13th January. Since the calculation to determine the day is based on the solar calendar, the date doesn't change. It is considered a very auspicious occasion when the Sun transits the Capricorn sign. A rich and abundant harvest of paddy and other crops depend on the availability of good rain, as most of the rivers in Tamil Nadu are not perennial. Hence, there is the invocation of the Sun God and the God of Rain at the time of Pongal.

My wishes to all the Indians out there
As the sunlight is the very nature of the sun, sweetness the nature of sugar and heat the nature of fire, the Lord is divine grace. God cannot give grace until you allow Him to enter your life. To invoke Him is to invite His grace. To the extent the heart is open for the inflow of the Higher, to that extent we are under the grace of the Lord. - Swami Chinmayananda
May all you have a blessed and joyous pongal.

Monday, December 3, 2007

One Not Enough

This was the most interesting discussion in our class last week. "Infidelity & Extramarital Affairs". Of course most of us were curious as to why it happens rather how can we prevent it from happening cause in ones life time, 95% of married couple are involved in infidelity. Well it can happen physically and also mentally. Hmmm...very interesting right??


According to Dave Carder, the author of "Torn Asunder" (http://www.tornasunder.org/)The five "A"s of Extramarital Affairs is due to lack of..

  1. Affirmation
  2. Affection (this is more for women)
  3. Acceptance
  4. Accommodation
  5. Adoration / Admiration (this is more for men)

If these five lacks or fails in ones relationship, marriage drifts apart, then either one party tends to find another partner to fulfill.


Both Male and Female have their own needs and if these are unmet, then it leads to trouble!!!.

I didn't say this. This is according to Willard Harley, the man who wrote books on building marriage to last a lifetime (http://www.marriagebuilders.com/).

Her Needs

  1. Affection (Women loves praises, what's wrong in daily compliments??)
  2. Conversation (women loves to talk, so guys need to listen)
  3. Honesty & Integrity (Need to be smart guys)
  4. Financial Support (Definitely not for materialistic women, I suppose someone who can support her and family)
  5. Family commitment (Guys are usually commitment when they are married but somehow some cannot express well, need personal grooming I suppose :-) )
  6. These our group of classmates added one more..."sex". Think women these days show importance to this too.

His Needs

  1. Admiration (I honestly dinch know this, something new that I learnt about guys)
  2. Sexual fulfillment (Hmm...no comments)
  3. Recreational companionship (Ladies need to show interest in whatever these guys like, be it soccer :-))
  4. Physical Attractiveness (Think is norm for most guys, that's why there many slimming centre and product are making $$$)
  5. Domestic Support (Ladies need to be multi-taskers to win the men's heart)

So why people are more vulnerable these days? It all leads to the unmet needs listed above and I mainly would highlight the ego thingy in everyone.

How is this unmet needs happen.

  • Exposure to media and "other" world
  • Educational standards
  • Marriage becomes dull
  • Lowered in nurturance level
  • Financial conflict (one does better than the other)
  • Power control issues (WHO IS IN POWER HERE??)
  • Sexual dissatisfaction.
  • Hungry for emotional and physical needs
  • Angry with spouses
  • Loneliness
  • Tired / Feeling empty
  • Bored

When I took some time to contemplate, these hardly happen during our parents/grandparents time. They stick to marriage vows strictly no matter what kind of spouses they get.

These days I think women are getting more sophiscated and smarter. They are proving to the men that they can live without them.

If marriage needs to be held till the end, there is lots of hardwork. I shall write a review on how much of hard work is required in a marriage, the list surprises me. Honestly, I barely met 20%...not an easy task..cheerio!!